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The Meaning of Love Taught by Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan

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When I opened the internet, “Sore Idaman” was trending. At first, I thought people were referring Sore’s character as the dream girl. Turned out, “idaman” stands for “istri dari masa depan.”

Anyway, Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan (2025) is the type of film people will bring to the table of discussions, there’s so much to talk about. Do you think Sore is giving love rather than obsession? How about the multiverse’s theories? Which one do you prefer: web series or movie? Does Sore remind you of any other movies? Despite all the pros and cons, that’s the beautiful experience of watching the same film: different reactions and interpretations.

 

The difference between web series and movie

I get why some people prefer the web series. The argument is that Sore (web series version) has more personality than Sore (movie version). It seems like Sore in the movie has no defining trait other than being Jo’s wife. I mean that’s a whole point of grieving: Sore pours all her energy and puts her whole attention to the person she lost, her world revolves around Jo. We’ll see more personality about Sore if this movie tells a different story. Sore lost her loss of her life, hence why this movie is all about Jo and focuses its story on him.

If you notice it clearly, Jo (web series version) and Jo (movie version) are also different characters. In the web series, Jo is more temperamental but eventually experiences character growth. So, both Sore and Jo in the movie are alternate versions of themselves compared to the web series.

Sore in the web series is so lovable, she’s such a sunshine girl. But in the movie... From Sore’s eyes, we can see that she’s already exhausted, but that doesn’t mean she has less love for Jo. She’s always wearing a blue dress, maybe because she’s feeling blue.

Some people think Sore in the movie is budak cinta tolol type of woman. Well, the movie doesn’t capture how deeply in love Jo is. Unlike the web series, which shows Jo’s effort to never give up on Sore, to prove that their love is worth fighting for. The movie misses the point of how lovely Jo treats his wife, to the point that she feels loved, which explains why Sore loves him that much. Sure, Sore has watched Jo die once, but what about Jo who’s seen Sore die in his arms multiple times? It would’ve been more interesting if this movie had explored that side.

However, Jo in the movie feels more realistic. Jo in the web series instantly quits smoking and drinking the moment Sore appears, that’s nonsense. It’s never easy to fix someone from their addictive habit, especially if they’re a heavy smoker and an alcoholic. If we desperately fix someone who doesn’t want to be fixed, I fear it’s obsessive behaviour instead of real love, I mean love is supposed to be unconditional. In the web series, Sore says something like, “Kan gak enak, berubah karena takut mati.” In the movie, there’s a quote that says, “Seseorang berubah bukan karena takut, tapi karena merasa dicintai.”

The genre of the web series is romcom. The movie is more complex and tells the emotional sides of both characters. Watching Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan can be emotionally draining, but imagine how Sore feels... If I were in an “I can fix him” competition and my opponent was Sore, I’d lose for sure. I wonder if she listens to “I Can Fix Him (No Really I Can)” by Taylor Swift and “Savior Complex” by Phoebe Bridgers, I mean it’s so Sore coded.

The script would be thin pages of a book if only Jo didn’t have daddy issues. In the web series, Jo asked Sore, “Di hari pernikahan kita, Papa aku dateng gak? Oh, enggak, ya...” But the web series didn’t tell what the hell is happening. In the movie, we finally know why.

Seno (Jo’s father) reminds me of John Lennon. Both cheated with their first wives, then married their second ones. Abandoned their first kids, but being the best figures of dads to their second ones. If we look at Jo’s Spotify account, I bet “Hey Jude” by The Beatles is on repeat while “Beautiful Boy (Darling Boy)” by John Lennon is hidden.

Yeah I feel sorry for him, but Sore has a point though. I might quote it incorrectly, but she says something like, “Kamu terus-terusan nyalahin Papa, tapi kamu gak milih diri kamu sendiri!” That sentence hit me. Sometimes we let ourselves drown in sadness because we don’t love ourselves enough.

It’s warming how Jo chooses closure with a single note, his heart is forgiving enough to walk away from a conversation. But that doesn’t mean Seno is any less of a loser though. He’s such a dick when he’s just standing there and culang-cileung instead of chasing after Jo. Maybe it’s unnecessary and it would make the duration longer, so it’s better to cut it out lol.

 

Details from the web series

So... I watched the web series years ago, the premise was the only thing I remembered. After seeing the movie twice in the theaters, I rewatched the web series. These are my realizations:

1.    Same dialogues

Sore: “Kalo udah suka bilang, ya!”

Jo: “Gak ada yang bisa ngatur-ngatur aku, sekalipun istri aku sendiri!”

2.    Similar scenes

Elsa splashes out her drink at Jo, Sore waits for Jo till the morning outside, Jo has breakfast with Sore at the restaurant, and Karlo’s activity is doing casting.

3.    Almost having sex scene

They’re so close to have sex, but decide not to do it anyway. This is why Sore loves Jo, it’s love over lust, their love is built on emotional bond rather than physical desire.

4.    Jo’s feeling

Someone on Twitter joked, “The movie title is Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan, not Jonathan: Suami yang di Situ-Situ Aja” [insert skull head’s emoji] because the plot is repeated. In the web series, Jo grows in love in a slow burn way.

I think, in the movie, Jo and Sore’s path is not in the past. No matter how many times the past is repeated, their paths never cross there. Once they meet in the future, they’re together. It’s because their destinies align in the future, not in the past.

5.    Karlo

Karlo immediately believes Sore is from the future because she knows his deepest secret. Karlo doesn’t believe in Sore for a while because of Elsa’s influence, but he believes Sore again because her advice for him actually works.

When Karlo and Elsa say don’t believe Sore, Jo comes back to see the sunset with Sore instead of running away. Maybe Jo does that because he falls in love with her.

6.    Jobs

In the web series, the one who does an art exhibition is Karlo, not Jo. Jo is doing some work from home stuff and he’s a night owl who often stays up late. When he returns to Jakarta, he works as a photographer and Sore works as a fashion designer, they work in the same place.

 

Details from the movie

Here are my interpretations:

1.    Croatian language

Jo asks, “Berapa lama kamu belajar bahasa Kroasia? Kok lancar banget?” and Sore answers, “Berapa lama, ya? Seratus tahun ada kali.” She’s not joking, she’s being serious! Sore goes through the time loop many times. She’s in Croatia again and again, she even practices how to speak Croatian so she can talk with the locals. Learning a new language takes a long time, right?

Besides learning the language of the country where Jo lives, Sore memorizes his activities chronologically from carelessly bumping into a man carrying tomatoes, meeting Elsa, exercising, going to Seno’s house... Alongside “Pancarona” by Barasuara, this scene tells how often Sore is trapped in a time loop.

2.    Sore’s braided hair

There’s one scene that’s not repetitive: when Sore decides to ask herself, “What if I choose to walk away?” and she does. She becomes a fashion designer at Marco’s boutique. Time passes... Sore braids her hair. As her hair grows longer, it becomes a visual marker of how long she distracts herself from heartbreak.

3.    Aurora sky

When Jo sees the aurora, tears are falling from the sky. In my opinion, they are Sore’s tears. Jo and Sore are staring at the same sky, both see the aurora from different dimensions. Jo is in the Arctic in his timeline, when he’s in the process of trying to be a better person. In another dimension, Sore is in the Arctic on her own, she’s mourning over her death husband, and wants him to be a better man.

Previously, Sore read Jo’s notebook, he wrote that there’s no time zone in the Arctic. She assumed this means she can freely travel back to the past, knowing there’s no time zone in the Arctic. It’s a red aurora, which is the rarest one. Ancient belief says that red aurora can take us to the past. I forgot if Jo ever wrote about his daddy issues in his notebook because if he did, Sore might’ve read it and had the urge to fix his childhood trauma.

 

Movies and songs that remind me of Sore

Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan is nothing like Past Lives (2023). But the in-yun concept from Past Lives connects so much with Jo and Sore’s shared memories, especially in the ending when they shake hands.

The misinterpretation of Sore’s character reminds me of the misinterpretation of Summer from (500) Days of Summer (2009). People think Sore is stupid for love, as if woman always has to be the one who’s patient and giving in in the relationship. Yes, this movie tends to tell its story from Sore’s point of view, but if you pay more attention to it, you’ll see that Jo is actually in love with her too. They love each other, even in every universe. Shit! This movie is so good, I almost fall for the propaganda—I almost believe in love again.

Like Sore, Summer from (500) Days of Summer is also often misread. Many see Summer as an asshole, even portray her as a villain. In my opinion, both Tom and Summer are anti-heroes. Tom is obsessed with her in an unhealthy way, but Summer isn’t firm in setting boundaries. The blame falls on Summer because the movie is told from Tom’s perspective.

The similarity between movies like Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan and (500) Days of Summer is that if we understand both the main characters’ perspectives, it’ll help us to understand human complexity. We can learn from this type of fiction that human is THAT difficult to understand. I mean understanding is the whole point of empathy, right?

Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan reminds me a lot of that one Japanese movie—­ “Bang, lari, Bang! Ada meteor! Bang? Mada kono sekai wa~ anjir wibu”—yup, Kimi no Na wa (2016). My biggest fear is being forgotten. What if I love someone—like, really love—but they forget my name or even my existence?

When it comes to music, this is some type of “About You” by The 1975 shit. You will get it if you think of a specific person every time you listen to that song and you’re longing while romanticizing the memory. You will get it if you watch this type of movie wholeheartedly. By the way, I’d like to see Jo and Sore fan edit with the outro of “party 4 u” by Charli xcx, please!

The last time a movie left a beautiful mark on my heart right after watching it was Everything Everywhere All at Once (2022). I even cried over that movie, but I didn’t cry when I rewatched it. Same goes with Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan—I wish I had the experience of watching this movie for the first time again. The tricky thing with movies like this is that the second time watching never hits as hard as the first.

To this day, Everything Everywhere All at Once still holds the best movie about multiverse—even better than Marvel. I mean it’s literally an Oscar-winning movie. I think Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan could be a strong contender for the next Piala Citra.

 

Jo’s art exhibition

Why do they meet here instead of at Kak Cindy’s wedding? There’s a fan theory that says Kak Cindy’s wedding is her event. Art exhibition is Jo’s event, hence why it feels more personal and meaningful. In one dimension, they meet at Kak Cindy’s wedding. In other dimension, they meet on Jo’s bed. In another dimension, they meet at the art exhibition. If they had met at Kak Cindy’s wedding, Jo would still have died of a heart attack, so it would be no use if Sore tried to fix the unfixable path.

Previously, Jo is longing for something, though he isn’t sure what it is precisely. It’s because, somewhere deep in his bones, he senses memories with Sore, but he forgets them. When his intuition leads him to approach her, he finally knows what he’s been longing for. All the memories from previous dimensions appear in a glimpse, become a flashback. Or maybe sometimes we just miss someone so much, to the point that we still miss them deeply, even if we can’t recall a single detail about them. Anyway, Sore’s outfit in this scene looks so nostalgic, identical to what she wore on the web series’s final episode.

 

Is Sore really from the future?

Bold of you assume Sore is literally from the future when she’s a grieving wife mourning her husband’s death. She wonders, what if she comes back in time and tries to change him? There’s a fan theory that says Sore’s scene in the Arctic symbolizes her grief. She lives in the past, she’s the woman who can’t be moved. The time machine is a metaphor for her willingness to do anything to repeat the time, to fix Jo’s bad habit, and heal his trauma. Sore already lived in the future when Jo died. She’s not coming from the future, she’s trying to save it. Sore’s grief is understandable because she believes she has the chance to rewrite the stars.

Sore dare enough to says, “Jangan biarin aku ditelan waktu.” to Jo, but Waktu is mad at Sore. If Waktu could talk, they would say, “No, you can’t play with me.” Hence why she runs out of time, unable to cross the limit. Also, the red aurora’s duration is about to fade away.

 

Love... What is love anyway?

Sore told Jo, “Aku pengen deh pacaran sekali seumur hidup.” First experience and first love? It’s hard to forget, dude. Yes, Sore wants Jo to be better, but she loves him for who he is, not for some idealized version of him in her head. She loves him unconditionally—there’s no condition such as Jo has to do this or that, to get Sore’s love. Even if Sore meets the worst version of Jo, she still loves him. Sore’s feeling for Jo is full of love, hatred couldn’t even compete. Sore is always by his side to inform Jo that he is loved by her. Jo changes for the better because it’s no one's decision to make but himself.

When Sore said, “Aku Sore, istri kamu selamanya.” She was in her final act of love: acceptance. She stopped not because she gave up, but because she finally realized that the most loving thing she could do was let go. By choosing to accept the timing, she opened the door to a beautiful path from an unexpected dimension. In Sore’s dimension, there’s no way she’s together with Jo. But in another dimension, it’s possible. Why? Because the power of love conquers all [oh my God. I’ll insert crying emoji]

But if we’re being honest, it’s creepy if a stranger woke up in our bed, knew our details, and claimed they were from the future... Is it illogical? Yes, that’s the point! Love is never logical.

I’m influenced by Cania Citta, she likes to talk about rationality. She argues that what we consider rational may not be rational for others. Some people complain, “If I were Sore, I would’ve given up. Focused on my career or found another man.” Yeah, that’s what rational according to YOU. But what if Sore’s criteria in marrying a husband is having somebody to love? What if she wants his love to fulfill her emotional and psychological needs? What if she chooses this life because she’s aware that love is more than just a feeling, but it’s also a choice?

By the way, if you look closely at Jo’s alarm, he always wakes up at 08:25. There’s a fan theory that says this references a Bible verse about hope and waiting for a miracle. But director Yandy Laurens himself confirmed it’s actually his wedding anniversary with his wife, August 25th. So, this film is basically his love letter to the love of his life... Oh, to be loved like that!

 

My rating

Several scenes make me go like, “Why does it have to be this dramatic?” but that’s how movies are. “Terbuang Dalam Waktu” by Barasuara perfectly captures that one cinematic scene. This movie’s visual is clearer than my eyesight! [Insert Martin Scorsese’s “absolute cinema” meme]

Sheila Dara told Raditya Dika on his podcast that no one expected that scene to be this good. Not even her as Sore’s actress, not even the crew. The editor Hendra Adhi Susanto deserves a standing ovation, he understood his assignment.

I give Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan a 7.8/10 rating. For me, Jatuh Cinta Seperti di Film-Film (2023) is Yandy Laurens’ best work to date. I give that movie an 8/10 rating, it’s an eight because he ate. I’ve watched his whole filmography, it’s awesome that Yandy Laurens’ art is idealist AND accepted by the mainstream.

 

My telmi ass doesn’t understand multiverse’s theories better than most people. I’m aware this shit would be more fire if only I understood those things. I’m also not watching more podcasts nor reading more reviews about this film because I knew it would run its algorithm and I don’t want my phone to spend more screen time.

Maybe my interpretation of love isn’t as deep as yours. I just love to yap the hell out of it. With all the knowledge I know, here’s my long-ass so-called analysis written about a film we’re currently obsessed with, Sore: Istri dari Masa Depan.

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